Fighting For Your Independence
July 03, 2014
Athletes often fight battles for independence to be their true self.
There's a developmental process in late adolescence when a person fights for independence from parents to claim their adulthood.
This is called "autonomy."
Autonomy usually peaks in the spring of the junior year of HS.
Battlegrounds may vary: grades, room cleanliness, or curfew.
The tension is typically highest with the opposite sex parent.
Often it is a parent that struggles most with letting go of the reins.
A bird needs to fly from the nest eventually. Autonomy can be like vigorously flapping those wings in preparation for departure.
If this battle is not fought and won in a positive manner, there can be long-term negative consequences on those relationships.
Think of the controlling mother-in-law, or the guy who never leaves home or the female that rebels, flees and never comes back.
How you fight your battles for independence matters.